One cannot give life without having life in himself or herself.  Love is like that, too.  For how we can we talk about loving another when we can’t love ourselves? 

True acceptance of their own and each other’s individuality and separateness is the only foundation upon which a mature relationship can be based and real love can grow. 

Love is not parasitism.  When one require another individual for their survival, he or she is a parasite on the other individual.  There is no choice, no freedom involved in a relationship like that.  It is a matter of necessity rather than love.  Dependency is an inability to experience wholeness or to function adequately without the certainty that one is being actively cared for by another.

Love is the free exercise of choice.  Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other. 

He left her… no explaination until much later and even then it was vague.  He refused to listen to her.  It seems he blamed her for all that is happening.  There was not a word of sorry on his part.  He was too caught up with blaming her.  Meanwhile, her illness got worse.  She stopped functioning.  She was incapable of doing anything. Didn’t care what anyone thinks anymore.  She became a recluse.

What could be the real reason for his leaving her?  Is it because of the stigma linked to her illness?  Is it because none of his trusted friends approved?  And he was afraid to tell her? 

It was so obvious he loves her very much.  But surprisingly he didn’t seem to be able to stand up for her.  It is as though he is ashamed of her.  What went wrong?

It was 1983. He was 18 & she was 14.   Love was so pure & innocent then.  Then he had to leave and never came back for more than 20 years.  He is still single but alas! she is now married with 2 children.  They knew at an instant the love they had for each other never died.  Theirs was a bond like titanium steel.  Just left dormant for decades.  It was like 2 crossed stars.  Something that rarely happens.   He said he would wait for her… she agreed.  For her love for him really never died.  She was waiting for him all those years.  She thought she would be able to get on with life by settling down and having a family.  How wrong she was!!  He kept his feelings well hidden all the years he was away.  It seemed they had never been apart.  They finished each other’s sentences…. They know about each other as though they had been together all those lost years.  Both had grown up a lot in this harsh world.  They went through lots of hard times while they were apart and they knew it was a chance they shouldn’t let go of.